Successfully completed!!

Today is last day of November and last day of NaNoPoBlano-2020. I just plunged into this challenge without having a clue what I am going to write for 30 days. I did not think I will even make it. In the mid way like after 10 days, I thought of quitting. But then I met so many writers who kept me motivated. I met several good writers and made friends over the last 30 days. So I kept on. I took up this challenge and continued.

I am not a writer so I had tough time coming up with a topic to write everyday. But I somehow pushed myself.

I had participated in NaNoPoBlano way back in 2013 when I had my old blog. But I was not able to finish it then. I am happy that I successfully completed this challenge. I had so much fun and excitement that I wished November never ended.

I would like to thank each one of you who liked the posts, commented and hence encouraged me to write on.

Yoni mudra

Adhyatma Yoga Kendra – The Yoga school in which I took month long yoga course, conducted a month long talks and seminars on Yoga by various Yoga teachers and artists. I attended a few seminars online and one seminar was about yoga mudra by Yoga guru Dr.Rangaraja Iyengar.

Mudra is a hand gesture in yoga. There are different mudras for various problems like head ache, thyroid etc. These mudras simulate various parts of the body.

This mudra which I have shown in video is called Yoni Mudra. Yoni is the female genitals. I learnt this mudra in the seminar by Yogacharya Dr. Rangaraja Iyengar. He showed this mudra since it is very effective mainly for hormonal imbalances with women. It’s also very good for menstrual issues and during menopause. He said that various women have reaped benefit from this mudra. Lot of women, especially those working, cannot set a dedicated time for yoga. Those of us can practice this mudra for 10-15 minutes everyday.

To practice this mudra everyday, sit alone in a secluded place where nobody is present. He said that our aura might conflict with others and hence mudra might not work.
Do not sit on floor, sit preferably on a chair or cot.
Practice this early in the morning or late in the evening after sun set.
Place the hands in the mudra pose close to genitals in the lower abdomen.
Do this everyday for 15 minutes.

I having benefited from Yoga thought of sharing this.

How to remove a channel

Even though I work in IT industry I find certain things hard. Here’s a story.

Last year I got Airtel DTH – Direct to Home cable connection for my parents. I successfully set up an account and got a representative to set up Dish and everything.

I took a basic package which has only regional language channels for my parents to watch. While I was browsing, I came across a channel called Comedy Gali. I love humor. I explored a little bit on how I could get it. It so happened that I just had to give a missed call to a number. One missed call and there I was happy watching my favorite Comedy serials.

After a while I got busy with my work and was hardly watching the channel. We were paying an extra amount every month needlessly. There were instructions to subscribe for a channel but no instructions to remove. I wonder if that’s the business tactic.

Finally I found out I need to send a message saying remove and the channel number to AIRTEL customer care, which I did – but in turn I got a message saying the customer care number is not valid. And then I explored in Airtel app as to how to remove a channel. Again there were options to top up but nothing to remove. I was really angry.

Then I called the customer care which has automated messages. I wanted to talk to a customer representative. But neither in the main menu nor in sub-menus I could find option to talk to customer representative. The stupid tone of the automated message was getting on my nerves. I tried selecting various sub channels thinking it might lead me to talk to somebody but my effort was in vain. After trying for several times, I gave up.

My mom started telling that we should take the repairer’s help or my cousin’s help. I felt like I failed in my technical skills. I wanted to solve it by myself. But my mom thought that it was me that I was not able to figure it out!! Though I explained her the problems she could not get it.

Yesterday India vs Australia ODI started. My father who is a cricket fan wanted to watch. It was being telecasted in SONY Ten which we didn’t have. And so I tried to give it a go and called AIRTEL customer service. It was like a cake walk – I found the option to reach them. Though I reached the option, I had to wait like 5-10 min for them to answer me. The background music kept playing over and over gain and started getting annoying. But I was ready to wait, and finally somebody answered.

I asked them to remove the channel I didn’t want and add the Sports channel. They did it in like a fraction of a second. I turned to my dad and said I did it!!! One should have seen a look on his face. He was over joyed and so happy. I felt victorious. I returned to my work feeling as if I had won a battle.

What is a perfect evening like?

Yet again Friday is here. Every week I look forward to it. I love Friday evenings when I wind up my work and then my mind is totally relaxed. To unwind from the weeks stress and pressure I’ve seen my friends go to theater to watch a movie and hang out with friends, then there are some who have a party at home, some go to pub and dance to their hearts content, some go shopping. Unwinding is different for different people.

To me a perfect evening would be to stay at home curl up in bed and drown myself in a book. Perhaps I would also watch movie at home on Netflix.

I don’t prefer people and gatherings. I always liked to have things to be simple. I like to find happiness in simple pleasures, yet my life became complicated. I wonder how…

Yesterday I was swamped with work. It was so hectic that I didn’t have time to even scratch my butt. I worked for almost 9 hours and after I was finished I went out to get some fresh air. My old neighbor had come and everybody was excited. There was laughter and people were so enjoying. I tried to fake laughter but I could not go on for long. Fake it till you make it doesn’t always work.

That’s when I started thinking as to what do I really want? I thought over and came up with solitude. My perfect evening would be to spend time with myself with a book or doing some art work or watch a movie, basically spend time with myself..

Sweetest gift from my husband

In our lifetime we receive several gifts from our loved ones. We forget some over time but there are some we cherish for our lifetime. I have received several gifts from my husband from simple to expensive ones. He has taken me on surprise trips, to restaurants on valentine’s day, a flower bouquet like so. When I was hospitalized he’s prepared food for me and brought. In fact I can say that what I have given him is less.

I cherish each one of them but there’s one that to this day stands as the sweetest gift from him. I had just moved to USA and we were newly married. We were in a small university town close to Atlanta, GA. He was still a doctorate student then. There were not many things to do in the town. He would take me for a walk around his university. He knew that I longed for Indian food especially mother’s food.

One day he came running excited. I still remember his face. He was extremely happy and held his backpack carefully. I wondered what made him so jubilant. He said to me – Do you know what I have got? and opened a packet that was covered with paper. There were two samosas (Samosa is a deep fried Indian snack) – one for him and one for me.

It seems there was some Indian event in college and they were distributing samosa as evening snack. He could have eaten one and came home. But he was sensitive enough to remember me. He could have eaten one and got me one. But perhaps he brought two and we ate together.

Sometimes even I would return his nice gesture. When I went to Indian store for grocery shopping, they would keep free tea for anybody. I would carry home for him. And then there were times I went to Gurudwara and would get him some pakoras and snacks.

He is my heart and soul and even to this day I remember this special act of love and affection. This is the sweetest gift I ever received from my husband.

A message from a father

One of the NaNoPoBlano participants Angie of The Life of An anxious Writer started writing letters to her son so he could read in future. I thought it was a wonderful idea. Recently my father too sent me a What’s app forward in which a father writes to his son. He asked me to read the message completely. I am close to my father than my mother. So often times I turn to my dad for solace. He sends me some forwards to inspire me and motivate me and get going with life. I am sharing the what’s app message here. I am not sure about the authenticity as to who wrote this. But this is what it came as.

Following is a letter to his son from a reknowned Hong Kong TV broadcaster and Child Psychologist.

The words are applicable to all of us, young or old, children or parents! This applies to daughters too. All parents can use this in their teachings to their children.

Dear Son,
I am writing this to you because of 3 reasons.

  1. Life, fortune and mishaps are unpredictable, nobody knows how long he lives. Some words are better said early.
  2. I am your father, and if I don’t tell you these, no one else will.
  3. What is written is my own personal bitter experiences that perhaps could save you a lot of unnecessary heartaches. Remember the following as you go through life.
  1. Do not bear grudge towards those who are not good to you. No one has the responsibility of treating you well, except your mother and I.
    To those who are good to you, you have to treasure it and be thankful, and ALSO you have to be cautious, because, everyone has a motive for every move. When a person is good to you, it does not mean he really likes you. You have to be careful, don’t hastily regard him as a real friend.
  2. No one is indispensable, nothing is in the world that you must possess.
    Once you understand this idea, it would be easier for you to go through life when people around you don’t want you anymore, or when you lose what/who you love the most.
  3. Life is short.
    When you waste your life today, tomorrow you would find that life is leaving you. The earlier you treasure your life, the better you enjoy life.
  4. Love is but a transient feeling, and this feeling would fade with time and with one’s mood. If your so called loved one leaves you, be patient, time will wash away your aches and sadness.
    Don’t over exaggerate the beauty and sweetness of love, and don’t over exaggerate the sadness of falling out of love.
  5. A lot of successful people did not receive a good education, that does not mean that you can be successful by not studying hard! Whatever knowledge you gain is your weapon in life.
    One can go from rags to riches, but one has to start from some rags!
  6. I do not expect you to financially support me when I am old, neither would I financially support your whole life. My responsibility as a supporter ends when you are grown up. After that, you decide whether you want to travel in a public transport or in your limousine, whether rich or poor.
  7. You honor your words, but don’t expect others to be so. You can be good to people, but don’t expect people to be good to you. If you don’t understand this, you would end up with unnecessary troubles.
  8. I have bought lotteries for umpteen years, but I could never strike any prize. That shows if you want to be rich, you have to work hard! There is no free lunch!
  9. No matter how much time I have with you, let’s treasure the time we have together. We do not know if we would meet again in our next life.

Your Dad

Parijatha

When I was thinking about a topic for today I saw my mom lace the flower to make a garland. This flower is called Parijatha in Sanskrit and Kannada, or night flowering coral jasmine in English.

When I was a kid we would visit my granny on Summer vacation. My granny’s house is located in a village near Teerthahalli and is very huge. In front of the house is a huge garden with various plants like different varieties of jasmine, hibiscus, henna plant and so on. Among them is this coral jasmine. It blooms every night and by morning all the flowers fall making a beautiful white flowery carpet on the ground.

As children we were assigned a job to collect all the flowers and bring it home. Later they would lace it using thread and needle into a beautiful garland to offer to God.

Currently in front of our house there is a coral jasmine tree. One of the daily activities of my mother is to collect them from the ground to make a small garland for her daily offerings to God.

Why I deleted my Facebook account?

Do you have Facebook account?

Me: No I don’t

Oh my God! You don’t have Facebook account!!!

Exclaimed my friend as if I am technologically backward. That’s when I went and created Facebook account which is like almost a decade ago. In the beginning Facebook was fun. I connected to many people whom I was out of touch. Friends from my primary school, high school, college etc. I was happy to get in touch with them again. Some had grown unrecognizable. I wondered how much they had changed in these years!!

Slowly Facebook sent a prompt for some game. I just played one or two games of Bejeweled. Everyday I played a little bit. I had just moved to America quitting my job, so had ample time. To kill time I played. This became a habit and then very soon I was addicted. I would sit and play for hours together. It totally wasted my time. I could have done so many fruitful things but there I was playing incessantly. I would even forget to have breakfast or take bath!!

Slowly I realized that some people just live on FB. Whether they sit, stand, laugh, fart they post on FB. I didn’t deserve to know all those information. Since checking FB everyday became addictive, whether I want or not I had to digest those unwanted posts by friends.

Then there were some friends who would ‘Like’ everybody else’s post except mine. Those who were once upon a time very close to me!!! It was my initial days on FB and I was slightly obsessed with how many Likes I would get. This would upset me. Needlessly I would worry on silly things!! I would spend hours together thinking why they didn’t ‘Like’ my post!!

Every morning I woke up, the first thing I would do even before coffee was to check FB on phone. Some posts would upset me. It is a breeding ground for political discussion. Certain news feed would spoil my day even before it started.

It is also an open platform for bullying. A group of people can discuss together and can target one person and post offensive pictures and posts or can have a sarcastic long discussions which is very unhealthy.

Then I started looking for job and I realized instead of preparing for interviews I was studying FB. That’s when for the first time I deactivated FB. No, I didn’t delete because I was addicted to it so much.

Then slowly life happened and depression sucked me in. When all is well in life, to have FB is not so bad, it’s a nice platform to get connected with friends and stay in touch. But when my life was fucked up, Facebook became intolerable. Everyday people would share their photos of their happiest times, of their recent vacation to dream country like Switzerland, some people would celebrate their birthday and other life events. Frankly speaking this bothered me. I felt like among my friends group I am the only one suffering, that I am the only one whose life got fucked up. They say you should not compare life with others – easier said than done.

Life went on. I couldn’t have a baby. I yearned for one. And everyday some or the other posts like – blessed with a baby girl, bundle of joy arrived, celebrating son’s first birthday, my daughter spoke her first words, my son pooped….. kind of posts bothered me. I became all the more depressed.

I thought I have had it. I clicked delete button. Now, I am not on any social media. This blog is the only space I have on internet. I hope I don’t have to delete this someday because I have deleted my other blogs before.

Star Gazing

Yesterday one of my walking friends was very excited over spotting Jupiter and Saturn in the sky. She had installed Sky Map app on her new phone and oriented to the Jupiter and was excited saying that this is some rare phenomena and occurs next only after 60 years. We saw Saturn Jupiter and Mars in night sky and satisfied that we saw, we returned home.

Growing up I loved to become an astronomer. The desire was further fueled by our neighbor Nagaraj uncle. He is no more today. He too was passionate about astronomy. He would help me detect many celestial object. He would wake up early like around 3 am and would sit in the terrace just to watch Leonid meteor shower.

Uncle subscribed to a magazine called Science Reporter. In that magazine there used to be a sky map or sky chart for the month. He would refer to that and regularly observed the sky.

Even I started to borrow Science Reporter and every weekend my hobby was to go to the terrace with a torch. I would align the sky chart with North South East West direction and try to spot the constellations, planets and other celestial objects.

It was a weird hobby for a teenager. Growing up I had no interest in girly stuff like nail polish, make up, buying sandals, dressing up myself etc. Since I was not so good looking in my teenage days, I hardly tried to look good. My interests were different. When I spotted a constellation I would excitedly share with my friends who showed no interest what-so-ever.

Star Gazing became my favorite hobby. I pursued until my college days, after which it gradually faded.

Somanathapura temple

I want to take a break from words today. Hence today’s post is all about pictures. These pictures are of Chennakeshava temple at Somanathapura we visited sometime in 2016. I had read about stone sculptures in Somanathapura temple but had never witnessed. I was mesmerized by the sculptures and appreciated our ancestors for their skill and brilliance. The carvings are so intricate, I wonder if anybody could do it today!! In those days without any technology I wonder how could they do such beautiful carvings!!! They basically depict our Hindu Gods and mythological stories from epics Ramayana , Mahabharatha and Bhagavata Purana.

Here are some photos we took.

Lord Vishnu

Lord Lakshmi Narasimha

Lord Krishna stealing butter

Picture Courtesy – myself and my husband